Step 1: Gather Your Friends
This is done by sending invitations via servant. Once the letter is received, it will take much husband-convincing to attend. Or in Mrs. Bennet's case, an entire bundle of nerves.
2. Let the servants take care of the venue, food, and arranging.
Notice there is no picture for this one. Jane Austen didn't really focus on the nitty-gritty.
3. Have a nice, sit-down dinner
Dinner is an excellent breeder for conversation; argument, and if you're lucky*, the beginnings of some serious ship-court.
*Note: if ship-courting is done by Mr. Collins, you are not lucky. I repeat, you are not lucky.
4. Have a nice, sit-down picnic
Admittedly more casual than a dinner indoors, a picnic still breeds plenty of conversation, though often of the sillier, more foolish sort. But never fear, both picnics and dinners provide plenty of tension, plot movement, and most importantly: drama.
5. Have a mini concert with your friends
Make sure you have something prepared, something that will outshine the Bingley sisters and/or impress your sweetheart (bonus points if he gave you the music). Nothing moves a relationship along better (other than point #6) than having the man you love turn the pages to your music, or even better, singing a duet. Amazing how many eyes are locked on the two of you while you manage to make big strides in your ship-court.
Women who dance get married. It's as simple as that.
7. At your wedding, have confetti, ribbons, and money to throw around
Because you made it, my dear. On to a new and happy life, full of more celebrations to come.
Note: please, if you must have cake at your wedding, do not eat it. It isn't good for the digestion!